Too many women complain that guys don’t express themselves and state how they feel. So please allow me to give you a glimpse into the mind of men. Wanna know what men look for in a real woman?  Start here!

Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown Women know that if he’s truly hers, he doesn’t need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them. Grown Women are too busy to realize you hadn’t.

Girls are afraid to be alone.  Grown Women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.  Grown Women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.  Grown Women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown Women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.  Grown Women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man’s time (I.e., don’t want him hanging with his friends).  Grown Women realize that a ‘lil bit of space makes the ‘together time’ even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.  Grown Women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and ‘tell’ their man so.  Grown Women ‘show’ him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his ‘manhood’.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown Women know that was just one man.

I repeat…Girls get burt by one man and make all men pay for it.  Grown Women know that is was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all ‘signs’.  Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn’t always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.  Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends.

Every Black man has seen the following scenario:  Women spending three hours shopping for an outfit for that date, special occasion, or social event, only to turn around and spend another three hours shopping for all the matching accessories, including purses, hats, and shoes.

While style is a very important factor for most women when choosing shoes, comfort should equally be an important consideration. The sad truth is that more Black women suffer from a variety of foot problems associated with sacrificing style for comfort.

Most women don’t know how to choose the right shoe size, which explains why most women will buy a pair of shoes, wear them to that special event, then either return them or never wear them again.This can usually be attributed to just considering the length of your foot when purchasing shoes.

Length is not the only factor to take into account when choosing your shoe size, width should also be taken into consideration. If you have wide feet, then it is best you go for brands that offer women wide width shoes. Below are the top three reasons why it is important to make sure that the shoes you get can fit you properly not just in length but also in width.

1. Comfort

Buying shoes that are too narrow can cause you to develop blisters. All too often women will force their feet into too-narrow shoes, thinking it will just be for a few hours.  You will only end up paying the price at the end of the day. While not all brands offer women wide width shoes, it is still no excuse for sacrificing your feet.  Utilizing patience while shopping will not only reward you with a great looking pair of shoes, but also a comfortable pair as well.

2. Grace

Most Black men know that what enhances a Black woman’s beauty is not only her ability to talk the talk, but in walking the walk as well. Black women have always been admired for their ability to walk with a certain grace and charm that accentuates their beauty.  While this is not strictly observed anymore, any woman of worth still possesses this trait.  Shoes that are too narrow for you can significantly compromise the way you walk. Getting the right pair of shoes that would fit your feet properly will allow you to walk better and look your best at all times.

3. Quality

It won’t matter if you shell out a million dollars, fly all the way to Italy and watch them cure the leather yourself, if your shoes don’t fit you well and you force your feet into them, they won’t last very long. Proper fitting shoes will not only keep your feet happy and comfortable, but a quality pair will last long time.

So the next time you go shopping, keep your feet happy with these important words of wisdom:

If the shoe fits…then by all means wear it.

Nearly one-in-five American women ends her childbearing years without having borne a child, compared with one-in-ten in the 1970s.

According to a study released by the Pew Research Center’s Social and Demographic Trends project analysis, between1994 and 2008, 17% of Black and Hispanic women were childless between the ages of 40-44 compared to 11% in 1994, a rise of 30%. Factors include:

• Public Attitude – Most women no longer feel that women without children lead ‘empty lives’
• Improved job opportunities for Black women and improved contraceptive methods
• A general trend toward delayed marriage and childbearing, especially among highly educated Black women.  In 2008, 24% of women ages 40-44 with a bachelor’s degree had not had a child. Rates were similar for women with a master’s degree (25%) and those with a doctorate or a professional degree, such as a medical or legal degree (23%).

It is also interesting to note that some Black women who do not bear their own children raise children as adoptive mothers or stepmothers. According to the 2008 American Community Survey, there are 61.6 million biological children in U.S. households, as well as 1.6 million adopted children and 2.5 million stepchildren. This report analyzes only the population of women who have not borne biological children.

At the same time, the study indicates that the only rise of childbirths in this demographic is among Black women who have never married. The childless rate in this area declined from 71% in 1994 to 56% in 2008.  When asked why they decided to have their first (or only) child, the overwhelming majority of parents (87%) answer, “The joy of having children.” But nearly half (47%) also say, “There wasn’t a reason; it just happened.”